
Why neurodivergent people struggle to notice emotions
Standard wellness advice assumes you can easily notice your emotions and energy levels. For many autistic and ADHD adults, that is not how their brains work. This article explores autistic alexithymia (difficulty naming emotions), why generic self-care advice fails neurodivergent people, and three practical methods that actually work: capturing what happened after the fact, logging patterns over time, and planning against your actual energy capacity rather than the capacity you wish you had.